“He came into my life when I was already an adult, and we’re friendly, but not particularly close,” the bride explained on Reddit
A bride is refusing to allow her mother’s boyfriend to walk her down the aisle.
In a post on Reddit’s popular “Am I the A——?” forum, the bride-to-be, 24, explained how her mother, 48, has been “pushing” for her boyfriend, 50, to be the person to walk her down the aisle in place of her late father. But she wants to walk alone.
“My dad passed away when I was 10, and my mom started dating her boyfriend about six years ago,” the bride wrote in her post. “While he’s always been nice to me, I’ve never seen him as a father figure, he came into my life when I was already an adult, and we’re friendly but not particularly close.”
The bride believes that the best way to honor her independence and father’s memory would be by walking herself down the aisle. Her mother disagrees, countering that her boyfriend deserves recognition for the large role he has played in her life.
“She got really upset, saying her boyfriend has ‘earned’ the spot by being there for me all these years,” the bride wrote of her mother. “She even accused me of disrespecting her relationship and trying to ‘erase’ my dad, which couldn’t be further from the truth.”
She continued: “Now her boyfriend is avoiding me, and my mom keeps calling me selfish and saying I’m ruining the wedding before it even starts … But this is my wedding, and I feel like I should have the final say.”