DEAR DEIDRE: I’M convinced my boss is going to sack me since I walked in on him in a compromising situation.
I’m a man of 32 and he’s in his 50s. He had forgotten to lock the toilet cubicle door at work and I walked straight in to be confronted with him sitting on the toilet, pants around his ankles. He was watching porn on his phone and pleasuring himself. It was awful and I can’t erase the memory. I backed out as quickly as I could and he hasn’t spoken to me since. I’m not sure who is more embarrassed, him or me. This is an awkward situation but I’m sure he will be far more embarrassed than you. Make a note of what happened and when, and keep it safe. If you ever catch wind that he is trying to make your working life difficult, ask to see HR and share what has happened. You can also get advice from acas.org.uk, which helps with work-related problems.